Who needs marriage most?

WHO NEEDS MARRIAGE MOST, A MAN OR A WOMAN?
The issue of who needs marriage most does not cross many people’s mind. They take it for granted that both men and women need it with equal zeal. But a close examination of the subject will show that though both need marriage, the degree of zeal is what makes the difference, it is the reason why women actually yearn for marriage with all their soul. But why?
In African societies, it is seen as a norm for a woman from age 13 to late 30s, to be married. But after the 30s, tongues will begin to wag, insinuating the unthinkable. By this time the woman is seen as needing spiritual help according to popular expectation. Meanwhile, it’s been conveniently forgotten that men are not readily available for her to marry. Men on the other hand are luckier in terms of age. If they are not married at the age of 35, it is seen as a normal thing, he might even decide not to marry at 50 if he chooses; he is the man. But early marriage has its obvious advantage because there is nothing as wonderful as growing up with your kids or even being a grand-father.
Nevertheless, it is the woman who needs marriage most, single motherhood is viewed unfavorably in our societies; it is looked on with disdain and even outright disapproval. Such women become the butt of lewd jokes. So a woman needs marriage for the respect that goes with the title, Mrs: it accords a woman respectability and uncommon dignity. In some Ibo societies, a woman is regarded as being headless; she needs the head of a man to have her own head to be complete. Also, in some societies, a woman does not have a home until she goes to her husband’s home. Her parent’s home is home for her brothers not her. This accounts for the inability of women to inherit landed property. In her husband’s home, it is her male children who own the landed properties, else they go to the husband’s brothers if she has no male children of her own.
On the other hand, a man can have children outside matrimony and nobody may notice it because it is seemingly normal. Problem arises if he makes no will before he dies. In any case, nobody would accuse his out of wedlock children “bastards” as is the case with a single mother’s children.
Marriage defines a woman’s sexual needs. It is supposed to tame her sexual desires and keep her from jumping from one bed to another. But honestly speaking, we all know that marriage has never stopped wayward women from expressing themselves sexually outside. Such women are easily condemned. But men’s sexual excesses rarely attract more than one woman would agree to marry one man is tacit affirmation that they need marriage more than men. Rarely would two men knowingly tangle with one woman at least not when she is married.
Nevertheless, it is not morally correct for a man and woman to have children outside of wedlock. When the children grow up, they would ask questions, but the woman bears the brunt of such questions most especially as male children would want to know their fraternal roots. They (male children) always insist on knowing who ‘daddy’ is and the mother had better have the answer.
A man need to marry to actualize his dream of raising children that will keep the family name going: Marriage makes a man more responsible. Whereas marriage will be the topic of discussion amongst a gathering of young women where they build endless fantasies about dream man, dream home, dream children, young men will discuss the number of women they have had, they are intending to have, etc.
Nevertheless, marriage is good and honorable for both the man and woman. It is an age old institution with divine blessing which has no substitute.

Written By,
ADELEKE KELVIN
President CYON St. Anthony Mass Centre,
Evbuotubu, Benin City.

Do you know the unknown uses of the coconut? Pt2

The unknown uses of Coconut pt2

The coconut


* Improves digestion and absorption of other nutrients including vitamins, minerals, and amino acids.


* Improves insulin secretion and utilization of blood glucose.


* Relieves stress on pancreas and enzyme systems of the body.


* Reduces symptoms associated with pancreatitis.


* Helps relieve symptoms and reduce health risks associated with diabetes.


* Reduces problems associated with mal-absorption syndrome and cystic fibrosis.


* Improves calcium and magnesium absorption and supports the development of strong bones and teeth.


* Helps relieve symptoms associated with with gallbladder disease.


* Helps protect against osteoporosis.


* Helps protect against kidney disease and bladder infections.


* Its lower in calories than all other fats.


* Supports thyroid function.


* Promotes loss of excess weight by increasing metabolic rate.


* Is utilized by the body to produce energy in preference to being stored as body body fat like other dietary fats.


* Helps prevent obesity and overweight problems.
- Applied topically helps to form a chemical barrier on the skin to ward off infection.


* Reduces symptoms associated to psoriasis, eczema, and dermatitis.


* Supports the natural chemical balance of the skin.


* Softens skin and helps relieve dryness and flaking.


* Prevents wrinkles, sagging skin and age spots.
- Promotes healthy looking hair and complexion.


* Provides protection from damaging effects of ultraviolet radiation from the sun.


* Helps control dandruff.


* Does not form harmful by-products when heated to normal cooking temperature like other vegetable oils do.


* Has no harmful or discomforting side effects.


* Is completely non-toxic to humans.


* Coconut oil ... healthiest oil on earth.


Culled from bussinessday.com

Do you know the unknown uses of coconut? Pt1

Do you that coconut

* Kills viruses that cause influenza, herpes, measles, hepatitis C, SARS, AIDS, and other illnesses.


* Kills fungi and yeasts that cause candidiasis, ringworm, athlete's foot, thrush, diaper rash, and other infections.


* Expels or kills tapeworms, lice, giardia; and other parasites.


* Provides a nutritional source of quick energy.


* Boosts energy and endurance; enhancing physical and athletic performance.


* Kills bacteria that cause ulcers, throat infections, urinary tract infections, gum disease and cavities, pneumonia and gonorrhea, and other diseases.

Quotable Quotes pt1

"The kind of people I look for to fill top management spots are the eager beavers, the mavericks. These are the guys who try to do more than they're expecting to do - always reach."
*Lee Iacocca


The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude. Be kind, but not weak. Be bold, not a bully. Be thoughtful, but not lazy. Be humble, but not timid. Be proud, but not arrogant. Have humor, but without folly. *Jim Rohn


The most powerful and predictable people-builders are praise and encouragement.
*Brian Tracy


Leaders must learn to discipline their disappointments. It is not what happens to us, it is what we choose to do about what happens that makes the difference in our lives turn out.
*Jim Rohn

Three things to note on your way to success

Three major things you must consider on your way to success are,
1. Discovering Your Ability: Look out for those things that you alone can do. These things make you who you really are (SPECIAL).

2. Positive Mindedness: You must be positive minded about yourself, the things you do and your environment. Because when your thinking is not right, you cannot see clearly into your vision.

3. Your Dream: What is your dream? If you have a dream, you must live for that dream. If you have a dream, you must start putting that dream tn a reality. START NOW!!!